One of the biggest obstacles I encountered was when I asked myself “What if?”.
What if I fail?
What if people judge me?
What if it becomes a disaster?
A ton of what ifs standing right in the way of my progress.
Whether you do this yourself or not, here’s some what ifs I now use instead that changed everything for me.
They made it even scarier to not act than it already was to take action.
Because, what if you die tomorrow and never get the chance to do anything else in life, how about that?
What if someone close to you die tomorrow and you’ll never be able to see them again?
What if you have a small fight and it becomes the last ever interaction you get with that person, what a way to end things?
By using what if as fuel instead of fire, I managed to get my ass out of my comfort zone and do the things necessary.
Because, I wanted to achieve something greater than most people, I wanted to enjoy a life full of happiness and fulfillment and I wanted the people that are close to me and that I love to be in such life, what if that wouldn’t have happened?
What if I wouldn’t have acted when I had the chance?
So, what if you failed?
Would it really be that bad?
Would it be the end of the world?
Probably no, which leaves us with the only risk being to not do it at all.
The only risk when embarking on something new is to never even fully try it.
When I realized this, I just went and went and went.
I told myself I wouldn’t stop until I got what I wanted.
Because if I didn’t act, who knows how my life would’ve looked now?
Maybe I would’ve been the one to die or lose a loved one?
But now I get to enjoy a life of happiness together with everyone I love and dear, because I actually did something about it.
Just how I wanted it to be…
Fear is something that kept me away from achieving and working towards my goals for a very long time.
But then, fear is what got me started and kept me going.
What was it really that made me realize to use fear as a tool?
I found out my purpose in life, what I wanted to achieve, do and with whom, and I knew how to get there.
I basically knew everything I needed but that wasn’t the issue.
Knowledge rarely is the issue.
It was the fear of failing.
So, I noticed I was too afraid to act on my ideas and were seeing no progress at all.
I kept telling myself that I was well on my way to achieving what I wanted to, but in reality, I hadn’t even moved an inch.
I enjoyed telling myself that but never actually did something to get there.
I realized one day when working and doing the same repetitive tasks, that I was in fact in the same exact position as a year ago.
I realized that simply thinking of progress isn’t actually leading to real progress.
That’s when it hit me, I either stay where I am and miss out on everything I ever wanted, live a life which was the complete opposite of my vision and turning my dreams into piles of regret.
Or I could change things up and start doing something about it for real this time.
Which I did.
My vision was, and still is, to live a life filled to the brim with happiness, enjoying my time spent on earth and doing the things I want while I can, being able to help people that need help, and doing all of it with the people I love.
The objective was simple but the task difficult.
Most of it was related to habits and not finance.
I just wanted to be happy and enjoy my life and everything in it.
Although removing any financial issues is what we all probably dream of, it wasn’t the core thing I was seeking at first.
It was everything else.
Had I started pursuing any financial dream before any other of my goals, my life would’ve probably looked the same as before, even with money.
This is what I’m here to make you realize.
Money comes second.
You’ve probably heard of goalsetting, where you write down all of your goals and plan out what you need to do every day in order to get there.
Right.
But have you heard of fear setting?
It’s exactly what it sounds like, the complete opposite.
You write down everything that you would miss out on if you were to stay where you are.
It makes it very clear both what you need to do, what you want to achieve and what you want to avoid.
Used together, it’s powerful.
When writing it down things just seem a bit more real.
Use the same fear setting template I did and start making things happen to avoid having to live those fears…
That’s scary.
So, what if I wouldn’t have done what I did?
What if I would be in the exact same place years later?
What if……what if?
Who knows.
I don’t really want to find out and hopefully you won’t let yourself do it either.